… to help you give it to her the way she likes. Do that, and you’ll light her on fire for your kisses again! If you do a little fact-finding with her, you will get some ideas for escalating from pecks on the cheek to deep, delicious tongue thrusting that gets you both fired up for more. The same holds true for her fear of escalating to more than kissing as the reason she resists. She’s holding back and there’s a reason. You can find out what your lady’s emotional resistance issues are before trying to kiss her.

What To Do When She Resists


We often have immediate responses that seem to pop out of our mouths: “I don’t want to!” “No, you can’t!” “It’s too much!”

Sometimes these are the voices of wisdom, other times they are abrupt knee-jerk reactions that come from old conditioning in the limbic system of the brain. They often shut people out, create distance, and keep us at a superficial level of awareness.

If we take a thought and follow it deeper and deeper, we often find the heart of our feelings and get down to the real issues.

Does This Happen In Your Bedroom?


Sharon told Ted frequently that she’d enjoy making love… but it she always pushed him off to “sometime later.” Then when night time rolled around, she didn’t seem to be in the mood. Ted would give her a neck rub but they’d end up watching TV or reading before turning out the lights.

He didn’t understand why she’d say one thing and do another. She’d say she wanted him, but she’d go to sleep.